As we enter the second month of the new year it is always time of reflection. We are entering the last month of summer, the schools go back, credit card bills need to be paid, 11 months until Christmas again! And there are always the same questions, why haven’t I lost that Christmas weight yet? Why have I drunk as much in January as I did in December? And whether you make goals or resolutions at the beginning of the month or not – there are still questions at the end of the month as to whether you are on a more virtuous path this year or on track to make your first million, or why haven’t you started reading all the classics yet or started your marathon training?!
January was a month of questions and pressure. Pressure to start the year of right this time, to do things differently or just to have a goal or resolution because it is a new year after all. Why do we put this pressure on ourselves to change or to fit more in or be better than last year? How about this year we make it about us? You? Just you. I am not saying you should forget your 3 children, husband, cat and turtle and run off to a deserted island. I am just saying that creating some time for yourself every day and deciding not to change your routine or make you first million this year while running a marathon is ok too.
Appreciating what you do have and what you have achieved is even harder than accomplishing new goals sometimes. Having a to-do list as long as your arm, sometimes creates more stress and makes you less productive. If you gave yourself 30 minutes, at the beginning of the day or at lunchtime, to go for a walk, or to take a bath at the end of the day, how good would that be? To do something for you. To get back to what makes you happy, maybe then you wouldn’t have to write a list or set a new goal.
What if you took that time every day and put it in to learning a new skill or walking a new trail or trying a new recipe. Something that isn’t going to put too much pressure on you but will give you a sense of accomplishment. Time for you is just as important as signing the next deal, making the pack lunches and walking the dog for an hour every day. Time for you allows you to feel rested and relaxed. We are more creative in solitude – let your inner self know that you haven’t forgotten them and your whole self will thank you for it. I am not saying don’t have goals or plans or even dreams. I am just saying that what you are doing right now is also great! Think about what you want to achieve and how that will impact your happiness. Maybe set some small goals for the end of the year and not resolve to do things so differently last year. Don’t be so hard on yourself. And don’t look back with regret but forward with determination and self-appreciation.